Socially Acceptable

January 18, 2013

I woke up early this morning expecting to have a good day.  Why would I expect anything other THAN a good day?  With the sun shining and the weather is going to nice today, why would I think otherwise.  But that thought is short lived.  With J waking up and W gone, I think J was stressed that he didn't get to see W this morning. 

IDK, maybe it was me that started it but you tell me.  It started out telling J after he was finished mixing the dog food to give to the dog, that he cleaned up his area before feeding Babe.  I commend him for cleaning for sure but he isn't the fastest person that does a task quickly. He decided to wash the can and rinse out the sink before feeding the dog.  IDK, maybe I'm looking way too much into it but shouldn't you feed the dog FIRST before you clean your area where you mixed the pet food?  But then again, I was trying to teach him how to be socially acceptable.  Is that too much?  I mean he was acting like a real ASSHOLE!!! Now my thought is that if I'm thinking it then someone else would too.  But the thing is he said, "Fucking Asshole." So in all essence he got his electronics taken away today.  Okay maybe I shouldn't have said what I said then maybe he wouldn't have said what he said.  (Wade isn't going to like this).  Oh well! Then J was going to walk away, but he actually turned and asked me if I was done talking to him.  Of course I said yes and he stormed away and slammed the door!! What else is new!!! So of course I go back to his room and tell him to stop slamming doors (been telling him to stop that since we lived here - 6 months).  I'm getting tired of telling him the same thing.  I guess our conversation started out to where he said, "sorry." Anyways, he got angry at me and blamed me for getting him angry. I've told him since he slammed the doors and his attitude is not in check, he has lost his electronics for the day. As we were talking he got more angry and he motioned for his BB Gun. You say WHAT! Yes, he motioned for his BB Gun and looking at me that way. I'm sorry but that to me is not acceptable.  So he had his electronics taken away for a week!!!

So after awhile of talking of who's fault it was who started it, I decided I was going to bow out of the conversation and left.  So what did he do??? He slammed the door AGAIN!!! Does this kid NOT learn!!! OMG, REALLY????!!!!  So I go back in to his room and remind him AGAIN to NOT slam the doors.  Stop taking your anger out on the door, the door didn't do anything to you.  J tells me that he's angry.  I get that.  Really??? Didn't notice you were angry.  Duh!!!  Of course your angry but you have to channel that anger a different way. 

He's not making me want to homeschool next year!! I think if I did that would be insane.  You know the meaning of insanity, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.  I must be insane then.  lol!!!

With me talking to him and not yelling kind of makes things good.  He's calm when I spoke to him. I guess me reading all these websites are helping plus doing a bible study on Anger Management helped as well.  I'M TRYING REALLY HARD NOT TO YELL.  IDK if that's my new years resolution or what but I've been trying to not to react on what he says.  I think that's the thing.  I'm trying to walk away when the intuition tells me to and not to cave in on when he talks to me.  I try to point out when he's "baiting" me along and when I catch him, oh boy, he hates that!!! He is a dead give away when I catch him on what he's trying to do and when he lies. 

Doesn't he know by now that I've been there done that sort of thing? I guess not.  I guess that's why he's not all there and clueless.