Guilty Feelings? No!!!

February 21, 2013

It's Thursday, Feb. 21st and this is our 3rd week of Academy Days.  I mention this b/c J won't be going with me today down into Long Beach.  Why you may ask? Well, it all started on Monday (President's Day), Feb. 18th.  We didn't have school b/c I thought we needed a break from the grind of school.  I actually had the schedule all made out but since it was President's Day I thought I would for go school.  It was a typical morning where I got up and then everyone in the house was waking up slowly since it was a holiday.  Did I mention it was a holiday? lol!!! Anyways, I let J sleep in til 9:00 and then I woke him up.  It started out okay, he got up and did his thing except he stopped where he was to complete having breakfast, taking his pills and doing Bible Study.  So usually I don't mind him playing his Nintendo but I think he should finish what he's supposed to be doing before doing the game thing.  So when I went into his room and caught him I said, "if I catch you doing this again before the things you're supposed to do, I will take it away." Well, I thought I made myself clear but evidently not b/c on Tuesday HE DID THE EXACT SAME THING!!! OMG, REALLY!!! Anyways, going back to Monday, he was good the rest of the day.  I told him that I didn't want him inside all day watching t.v. and to help Grandma on what she wanted him to do.  And he did all that he was supposed to do.  That was a good boy.  I'm very proud of him for doing that. 

TUESDAY MORNING: Well, I told him Monday that since we took "today" (Monday) off from school that we would have to play catch up on Tuesday.  He was fine with it and he even said he wanted to start at 8:30 to finish our school ontime.  No problem!!! So he wakes up early and he proceeds to do his checklist then all of a sudden I don't see him for awhile.  I go back into his room and what do you think he's doing........YEP!!! PLAYING HIS NINTENDO!!! I told him to give me his "red" nintendo and that it's gone for two weeks.  You haven't had breakfast yet or taken your pills.  So his excuse was that "he didn't want to disturb grandma while watching t.v. So I thought I would wait." So you took the FIRST opportunity to play with your game all the while you could have come out and asked Grandma to find out how much longer she was going to be on the t.v.? She could have said "you could watch t.v., I'm done." or "I'll be done in 5 or 10 min. but in the mean time fix your breakfast and eat it then when I'm done you could watch t.v." But instead he ended up getting NO t.v. time at all.  Then he proceeded to yell at me, then I was so upset at this time both of us were yelling at each other.  Anyways, I had enough of trying to explain why I'm so angry that I finally walked away from the situtation.  (Good for me).  Then I thought, his blue nintendo is in there and it's quite in his room, no he wouldn't touch that after all we went through........ah but YES he did.  He was in there playing his nintendo (his blue one).  How did I know you ask? Well when we started school I had to go into his room for something and I saw the blue nintendo in the recliner.  Usually the blue nintendo is on the lamp table.  I thought I would give him the benefit of the doubt.  I didn't want to accuse him of something he didn't do.  So proceeded to ask him about his blue nintendo.  "Did you play your blue nintendo?" J says, "well, it needed to be charged." T says, "that's not what I asked. Did you play with your blue nintendo?" J says, "wel------------------l." T says, "it's a simple yes or no answer. Did you play with your blue nintendo?" J says, "YES." Ugh!!! How disappointing is that one.  I thought he would have been smarter than that.  But NO!!! So now he doesn't have electronics for two weeks.  I hope he realizes that he won't be doing anything til March 4th!!!

WEDNESDAY MORNING: He gets up as usual and he proceeds to come out of his room and feed the animals.  By this time Pearl (the cat) has been meowing for a very long time.  It's past her feeding time and she usually meows til she gets fed.  J is irritated by her meowing at this point and while he start for Pearl's bowl HE KICKS HER!!! OMG, REALLY!!!!  Of course, I have to defend the cat because the cat doesn't know any better all she wants is to be fed! So I proceed to kick J and I could see when I'm scolding him that he's trying to kick me as well  I get very angry at that b/c he didn't like it that I kicked him but it's okay for him to kick the cat!!! NO IT'S NOT!!!  So I tell him that for his really bad behavior he won't be going to Academy Days.  So the thing is since he won't be going to AD neither will I!!! I actually was thinking about this punishment.  Who am I punishing, him or me? Me of course.  But I came up with a great solution.  I STILL have to go to AD b/c I'm helping out in Cooking Class and J is staying home and going with Grandma tomorrow (Friday) to her work and doing school work there!!!! Well, obviously he doesn't like that plan and he got very angry with my decision.  Then don't kick the cat!!! Don't yell at me and don't play nintendo before doing what you're supposed to be doing in the morning! He asked if he could somehow try to work to get it back!!! Sorry, can you undo what you did Tuesday and Wednesday? NO!!! Then you can't go! Simple as that!!!!

I didn't tell Wade hardly any of this.  I just told him some of it.  I didn't tell him that he kicked Pearl either b/c I know he would be VERY angry at that one.

But STILL J is trying to get into my good graces to go with me today.  I asked him "can you undo what you did the last couple of days?" J says, "No." "Then stop asking or you won't go next week either." Tired of saying the same thing.

He still feels that he didn't do anything wrong.  But I have to teach him that he did something VERY wrong and it's just not acceptable and you won't be getting away with it.